It used to be that when you filled out forms as what your occupation was, there was a box to check ‘homemaker’. In filling out the latest census form, I don’t recall this option being available anymore…I believe the only option for a ‘homemaker’ was ‘not employed’.
If a young lady responds to the question, “what do you want to have as a major in college?” with “I want to be a stay at home mom” OR “I will be majoring in home economics”, she is likely to be met with either confused looks and/or encouraged to ‘choose a career that has more potential’.
Homemaking is scoffed at or, in the very least, looked down upon. It is seen as an activity / profession of the past…an aspiration for women of the 1950s. Definitely not something a woman in the year 2011 should strive to do…or is it?
Whether we are full-time homemakers or we fulfill the role of being a homemaker whilst being employed otherwise, we are responsible to obey the command God gave us in Titus 2:5 to be ‘homemakers’.
What then is homemaking and how do I become a godly homemaker?
A godly homemaker creates an inviting atmosphere of warmth and love for her family and her guests. She keeps order and manages household chores and logistics. She uses hospitality to minister to those around her. Pastor John MacArthur states the following on the role of homemaking as commanded in Titus 2:5, “Keeping a godly home with excellence for one’s own husband and children is the Christian woman’s non-negotiable responsibility.”
The Proverbs 31 woman demonstrates godly homemaking. She begins her day before the sun rises to plan and to prepare food for her family. “She rises while it is yet night, and provides food for her household.” (Proverbs 31:15). In order to have food ready for her family and so that all was in order at the start of the day, she deemed it necessary to make the sacrifice of awakening before anyone else … since her family was her priority. Yet, her day did not end early. We are told in Proverbs 31:18b that this woman’s “lamp does not go out by night.” After all the activities of the day (planting, business endeavors,as well as other activities), the godly women illustrated for us in Proverbs 31 prepared clothing by lamplight so that her family was clothed and did not go cold in the winter. At other times, she was also hospitable to others (Proverbs 31:20-22) as we are also commanded to “be hospitable to others without grumbling” in I Peter 4:9.
Ultimately, being a good homemaker comes down to creating a home that provides love for your husband and children and a place of respite for your family. When such order and loving atmosphere is created, opening one’s home to be hospitable to others is natural.
A few questions we as women should ask ourselves in this include: Is my home in order? Do I keep it neat and in order so that my husband and children can relax in it and my guests feel welcome? Am I meeting the nutritional (food) needs of my family in a timely and cost-effective manner? Am I providing clothing so my children and my husband can stay warm as well as be presentable in public? Am I regularly opening my home to guests and willing to provide hospitality when given opportunity (and do I seek it out)?
So much could be written on being a godly homemaker and, in this, I am only briefly scratching the surface. I would like to recommend two resources for further study on godly homemaking that have been a wonderful help to me personally.
Both are written by Pat Ennis and Lisa Tatlock and are excellently practical books on becoming a godly homemaker as well as a godly wife and a godly mother.
I will meet you again At the Table next week. Until then, dear friend, please keep seeking to glorify God in all you do…even in what might seem mundane “household tasks.” It does matter (even if there is no box to check on the census form).
For His Glory,